Before getting into this blog, I would like to disclose the fact that I am a feminist. Here are two definitions you should probably know right off the bat.
Feminism: the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.
Misogyny: dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.
Misogyny is a sad problem to have right now in our day and age, and apparently it is a bigger problem in third-world countries including Nigeria. Although, misogynists are everywhere, even in what is considered to be the best country: America. Misogynists are easy to spot if you are observant.
- They are cocky and have this insatiable feeling for dominance.
If you have someone in your life who is constantly commandeering others, that is a sign of misogyny.
2. They publicly degrade women.
Misogyny literally means the dislike/prejudice against women, so do not be surprised if they denounce women in numerous ways.
3. If you are a dating misogynist, chances are, he is cheating on you.
First of all, I hope you did not know your boyfriend was a misogynist when you both started dating. However, it is not too late, you can still dump him. (I use the term ‘him’ because usually women are not misogynists).
A common question comes up in regards to misogyny, “Why do misogynists still marry women if they are against women?” Unfortunately, because these men have ‘needs’ (otherwise known as sex), they marry women for their own selfish desires. If you could not already infer, these men are against equality, therefore do not believe in LGBTQ+ rights resulting in heterosexual marriages. Another reason is that men believe if they marry a woman, they will somehow convince a woman to believe their idiotic ideas. The last reason I could think of is the aggressive outlet they believe they receive after a marriage. These men are typically aggressive and need other ways to vent their anger out. Misogynists typically choose the worst way which is spousal abuse.
Moving forward, last year around June, there was a trend on Twitter called #BeingAFemaleInNigeria due to the rape/kidnappings of girls done by Boko Haram (terrorist group based in Northeastern Nigeria), abortion rights, and the ban of genital mutation (removal of female genital organs in order to control a woman’s virginity for marriage, constrain a woman’s desire for sexual encounters, and to increase the pleasure for a man). This started a conversation on a topic that seems to be sensitive.
Many responded with tweets like:
“#BeingAFemaleInNigeria You are a lady you cant be seen to be too smart, sometimes pretend not to know anything, men like submissive women.” – @AbangMercy
“Several landlords rejected me because apparently it’s not proper for a woman to live alone. #BeingAFemaleInNigeria” – @spectraspeaks
If you get pregnant before marriage, you’re in trouble.
If you don’t get pregnant after marriage, you’re in trouble.” – @rhodymite__
(I found the tweet above this note a little odd because the tweet was written by a male, yet the trend says ‘being a female’.)
“#BeingAFemaleInNigeria someone asked me why do you want to get a PhD ? You won’t get husband o.” – @FlorenceWarmate
“#BeingAFemaleInNigeria when you leave a bad relationship and people tell you: ‘why didn’t you endure?'” – @StephanieBusari
I know I picked out many, but if you would like to read more, click the link below directing you to many other tweets regarding this trend.
Feminism is a complex topic, so please inform yourself before making statements 🙂